The State of Affairs Rethinking Infidelity

About the book

There is one simple act of transgression that can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity: an affair. Yet this extremely common act is poorly understood. Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us understand why we have affairs, and what they really mean. Perel does not take cheating lightly, rather her practice (where she exclusively sees patients dealing with infidelity) has taught her just how much pain this act can cause and, as a result, just how inadequate is our current conversation. In The State of Affairs, Perel pushes us to engage in a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about infidelity and all the issues that come along with it. From understanding why the affair happened, to making your relationship stronger and more resilient, to how to prevent this in the first place, The State of Affairs provides the framework we need to understand ourselves and our relationships through our transgressions.